4 to 1

We had some friends over for dinner last night. The dad is studying to be a school teacher. In his behavioral class he learned that it is common for parents to reprimand 4 times to 1 encouragement. If the children are being good, then we leave them to themselves and then once they holler or misbehave we are right in there correcting them. My friend was saying that in their family they are trying to reverse that, 4 positives to 1 correction. I too want to be mindful of this, and did so today with the boys. It's good for the boys and good for me. Cool lesson.